Rebuilding Seminars, Reel Scripts for Bob
Eighteen short Reel scripts, ready to film straight from the page. Month 1 and Month 2.
Read this first
One script is on hold. The origin-story Reel, Month 2, Day 2 ("Twenty years ago, I went through my own divorce"), is gated on Bob clearing his bio. The source article (why-bob-runs-rebuilding.md) is on HOLD. Do not film or post that one Reel until Bob approves his bio. Every other script is good to film. It is flagged again on its own entry below so it cannot be missed.
A quick note for Bob: these scripts are written to be said in your own words. If a line does not sound like you, change it. The point is for it to sound like you talking to one person, not like a script being read.
How to film these
Batch-film them all in one sitting (about 75 to 90 minutes for the lot). Same shirt is fine, or change once at the midpoint. Talk straight to the camera like you are talking to one person across a coffee table, warm and unhurried. Use natural light in a warm room, with a little terracotta or sage somewhere in the frame. Burn the on-screen hook text into the very first second, because most people watch with the sound off. Keep your eyes on the lens. Do two takes of each, then move on. End every one on calm CTA energy: no hard sell, just an open door.
What is inside: Month 1 has 9 scripts (8 numbered Reels plus 1 bonus). Month 2 has 9 scripts (1 of them, the origin story, is gated). Eighteen scripts total.
MONTH 1
Reels, saves, and followers. Validation, education, Bob, and the easy first step. Nine scripts.
1. The first step is tiny on purpose
(Month 1, Day 2)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Most people who need this never walk in the door."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Most people who'd benefit from a divorce recovery program never actually walk into one. And it's not because they don't need it. It's because when your whole life has just come apart, the idea of joining a ten-week group feels like climbing a mountain you don't have the legs for.
So we made the first step really small. Before you commit to anything, you and I just talk for fifteen minutes. On video. No pressure, no pitch, no obligation.
You tell me where you are. I tell you honestly whether this is the right fit for you right now. That's it.
If you've been wondering whether something like this could help you, that little call is how you find out. It's free, and it's in our bio. I'd love to meet you.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, warm room, soft natural light, terracotta or sage in frame. Caption burned in (most watch muted). Pin this one after it goes up.
2. The thing your ex said that still loops
(Month 1, Day 5)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "The thing your ex said when it ended, that still loops at 2am."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Almost everyone I work with is carrying one particular sentence. The cruel thing their partner said in the very worst moment, right at the end. And it lodges in. It comes back at two in the morning, in your own voice, like it's just true.
I want you to hear this. That sentence wasn't a verdict on who you are. It was a wound, thrown by a person who was in their own worst moment.
You can learn to take it apart. To hear it, and recognize where it came from, and set it down. We do that work together, out loud, in a room that won't shame you for any of it.
If that sentence still runs you, you don't have to keep carrying it alone. Start with the free self-test in our bio. It'll show you where you are.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, or calm B-roll (a window, tea, hands) with the text on screen. Gentle, steady delivery.
3. There is a map. It is a mountain.
(Month 1, Day 9)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "There's an actual map for getting through a divorce."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
People think healing after a divorce is just about time passing. It's not. There's an actual map.
It comes from a psychologist named Bruce Fisher, and it looks like a mountain. You start down in denial, and you climb, step by step, all the way up to freedom. And along the way there are nineteen building blocks. Loneliness. Anger. Grief. Guilt. Self-worth. Openness. Each one is a real step, and every one of them is doable.
Here's the part that matters most: you don't climb it alone. You climb it with a small group of people who are on the exact same mountain.
We walk the whole thing together in ten weeks, in person, here in Boulder and Denver. Want to see which step you're standing on right now? The free self-test in our bio will tell you.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, optionally with a simple drawn "mountain" graphic cut in. This is the intro to the 19-block series.
4. Your couple friends disappeared
(Month 1, Day 12)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Your couple friends disappeared after the divorce, didn't they."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Here's a grief almost nobody warns you about. The marriage ends, and slowly, the friends you had as a couple just fade away. The dinner invitations stop. People pick sides without ever saying they're picking sides.
And I want you to know: it's almost never about malice. Friend groups reshape themselves around the new way things are. But it still hurts like a loss, because it's one.
Now here's the good news, and I've watched it happen for thirty years. The friendships you make when everyone in the room is in the same boat? Those tend to be the deepest friendships of your entire life. Our graduates say it over and over.
So come find your people. We're in Boulder and Denver, in person. There's a free self-test in our bio to help you see where you're starting from.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera. Warm.
5. What a free 15-minute call is actually like
(Month 1, Day 16)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "What actually happens on a free 15-minute call with me?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
When I say 'book a free fifteen-minute call,' a lot of people picture a high-pressure sales call. I get it. So let me tell you what it actually is.
It's fifteen minutes, on video, just the two of us talking. You tell me where you are and what you're facing. I listen. And then I give you my honest read on whether this is the right fit for you right now. Sometimes the honest answer is 'not yet,' and if that's true, I'll tell you.
There's no pitch. No pressure. No commitment. It's just a real conversation with a real counselor who's been through this himself.
If you've been sitting on the fence, that call is exactly what it's for. It's free, it's in our bio, and there's no wrong way to start it.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, calm and warm. Pin this one after it goes up.
6. Who will take care of me when I am old and single?
(Month 1, Day 19)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Who will take care of me when I am old and single?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
There's a fear that shows up around two in the morning, somewhere past fifty, when the house is finally quiet. Who's going to take care of me when I'm old? If something happened to me tonight, who would even know?
If you've felt that, you're not being dramatic, and you're not alone. It's one of the most common fears I hear in the room. It's just that almost nobody says it out loud.
And here's the thing: naming it is the first relief. And building real, lasting community, actual people in your life who'd show up, that's the real answer to the fear. That's a huge part of what we build together.
You're not alone in this. The free self-test in our bio is a gentle first step. We're here, in person, in Boulder and Denver.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, very warm and steady. High save and share in this audience, soft "send to a friend" energy.
7. Do I have to do the homework?
(Month 1, Day 23)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Do I have to read the Bruce Fisher book to get anything out of this?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
People get nervous about the homework. They imagine falling behind, like it's school. So here's the honest truth.
The magic was never the reading. The book is a good companion, and you don't have to be perfect at it. I've watched people who barely cracked it walk out completely changed. Because the real work doesn't happen on the page. It happens in the room, with your group, saying the true things out loud.
So if the thing holding you back is 'I don't have time to do it perfectly,' please let that go. You don't have to earn your spot with homework. You just have to show up.
Curious where you're starting from? The free self-test in our bio takes a couple of minutes. Come as you are.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, disarming and warm.
8. What if I am the one who left?
(Month 1, Day 26)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "What if I'm the one who left? Is this still for me?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Almost all the divorce content out there assumes you were blindsided, that it was done to you. But a lot of people come to me and ask, quietly, 'what if I'm the one who left? Is this still for me?'
Yes. Completely.
Because leaving doesn't spare you the grief. You still lose a future you planned. You carry guilt, and second-guessing, and a strange kind of loneliness, rebuilding who you are without the clean story of having been wronged. That grief is real, and it's welcome here.
The room is for both of you. The person who left, and the person who was left, sitting in the same circle, healing the very same things.
Wherever you sit in your own story, you belong. Start with the free self-test in our bio.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, gentle and inclusive.
9. Bonus: When should I start? Five weeks or three years?
(Month 1, Day 30 option)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Is it too soon, or too late, to start?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
People ask me all the time: is it too soon? Or worse, is it too late? And the honest answer is, there's no calendar for this.
In any given group, I've got someone who separated five weeks ago sitting right next to someone who's been divorced for three years. And both of them belong there. The newly raw person reminds everyone in the room how far they've already come. And the person further along shows the newcomer, just by being there, that it really does get better.
The mix is the medicine. So whenever you are, right now, five weeks or five years, it's the right time to start.
The free self-test in our bio will show you where you're standing. We're in Boulder and Denver, and we'd love to meet you.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera. This is the bonus Reel, an alternative for Day 30 if you would rather film than run a carousel that day.
MONTH 2
Bob to the front, dating and identity, kids, the 2am fears, and choosing a group. Nine scripts (one gated).
1. Bob's origin story
(Month 2, Day 2)
ON HOLD. Do not film or post this one yet. This Reel is gated on Bob clearing his bio. The source article (
why-bob-runs-rebuilding.md) is on HOLD. Film and post it only after Bob approves his bio, then pin it (it is the strongest trust asset on the account). Until then, the Day 30 "how to choose a group" Reel (script 9 below) runs in this slot instead. Bob: every detail here is yours to correct in your own words.
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Twenty years ago, I went through my own divorce."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
People assume I started Rebuilding because I'm a counselor. It's actually the other way around. About twenty years ago, my own marriage ended. I came out of it dazed, and only about half put back together.
Somebody handed me Bruce Fisher's book, and pointed me toward a workshop. And that cohort, those ten weeks with people who were in the same place I was, changed my life. The leader told me one simple thing on the first night. He said, just show up. So I did. And slowly, week by week, I rebuilt.
That's why I run this. And it's honestly why it's never been about the money for me. I've sat in your seat, on the worst night of it, and I know what the right room can do.
If you're there right now, I'd love to talk. There's a free fifteen-minute call with me in our bio. Just show up.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, warm room, soft light. Caption burned in. Pin it the moment it is cleared and posted.
2. Speaking shame out loud
(Month 2, Day 5)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "The cure for divorce shame: say it out loud."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Almost everyone I meet is carrying a shame they can't quite name. That they failed. That they should have seen it coming. That they're somehow damaged goods now.
And here's the thing about shame. It gets all of its power from one source: staying unspoken. The second you say it out loud, in a room that won't shame you back, three things happen. It stops sounding like the truth, and starts sounding like a feeling. You discover you're not the only one. And you give the next person permission to say theirs.
That's not a trick. It's the actual mechanism of healing. And it's most of what we do together, in that room, every week.
You don't have to start big. The free self-test in our bio is a gentle first step. It'll show you where you are.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, or calm B-roll with text on screen.
3. Dating after divorce, the real question
(Month 2, Day 9)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Before you date again, ask this one question."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
When people start thinking about dating again, they ask me, am I ready? And honestly, that's the wrong question, because the answer is always sort of.
Here's the better one. Bruce Fisher drew a line between two kinds of attraction. An attraction of deprivation, and a relationship of inspiration. Deprivation feels intense and fast. It runs on drama, and it usually comes with someone to rescue or fix. It feels like aliveness, but it's really just your old wound, looking for a familiar shape.
Inspiration is quieter. The person's life already works. They're curious about your inner world. And the biggest tell of all: around them, you feel more like yourself, not less.
Learning to feel the difference is how you stop repeating the pattern. We teach it directly. The free self-test in our bio is where you start.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, warm.
4. Shouldn't I be over it?
(Month 2, Day 12)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Still working on it years later? You're not behind."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
There's a question that brings so much shame, and people almost whisper it. Shouldn't I be over this by now? It's been two years. Five years.
I want to take the weight out of that. There's no clock on this. In any of our rooms, I've got someone five weeks out of their separation sitting right next to someone who's been divorced for three years. And both of them belong there.
Some of our graduates come back for years. As friends. As volunteers who help lead the next group. That's not being stuck. That's the opposite. That's staying connected to your own growth, and to your people.
So if your divorce was a long time ago and you're still doing the work, hear me: you're not pathological. You're paying attention. Wherever you are on the timeline, you belong here. The free self-test in our bio will meet you exactly where you are.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, gentle and reassuring.
5. The most important thing for your kids
(Month 2, Day 16)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "The most important thing you can do for your kids."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Parents come to me agonizing over what to say to their kids about the divorce. What's the right script. And the script matters less than they think, because kids are watching what you do with your feelings far more than they're listening to your words.
If you walk around saying I'm fine, nothing is wrong, while you're clearly coming apart, here's what your kids actually learn. They learn that grown-ups lie about their feelings, so they probably should too.
But if they watch you grieve honestly, and then slowly rebuild your life, they learn the most important lesson there is. That hard things are survivable. That you can fall apart and put yourself back together.
The catch is, you can't model a recovery you're not getting. That's a big reason parents end up in our room. They come to do their own healing, for their kids as much as themselves. The free self-test in our bio is a good place to start.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, warm and steady.
6. Who would even notice?
(Month 2, Day 19)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "If something happened to you out there, who would notice?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Here's a fear that shows up at two in the morning, especially past fifty, when the house is finally quiet. If something happened to me, out on a hike, on a trip, even just here at home, who would even know? Who would I call?
If you've felt that, you're not being dramatic. It's one of the most common fears I hear, and it can quietly shrink your whole life until you stop going anywhere on your own.
It has two answers. There's a practical one, and it's real: a satellite messenger, a shared trip plan, a person who expects to hear from you. But the deeper answer is community. A small constellation of people who'd simply notice that you were gone.
I love this. In our cohorts, people actually start filing their trip plans with each other. That's what belonging looks like in real life. You're not alone in this. The free self-test in our bio is a first step toward a life with people in it.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, warm and grounded. High save and share in this audience.
7. Teach your friends to help
(Month 2, Day 23)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Your friends care, but they've gone quiet."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
Here's a particular loneliness of divorce. You're surrounded by people who genuinely care about you, but they don't know what to say. So they say nothing. And the silence starts to feel like distance.
And on your side, you get exhausted from being the one who keeps everyone else comfortable, saying I'm okay, I'm okay, when you're not.
So here's the fix, and I say this gently, because it's partly on you. Teach your friends how to help you. They're not mind readers, and they're terrified of saying the wrong thing. Specific small asks beat vague big ones every single time. Can you text me on Tuesday nights, those are hard for me. That works. Let me know if you need anything, that never does, because now the work is on you.
And when you want a place where nobody needs the instructions, because everyone in the room already gets it, that's what we are. The free self-test in our bio is how you find us.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, warm.
8. What if I miss a week?
(Month 2, Day 26)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "What if I miss a week of the class?"
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
At just about every intro workshop, a hand goes up, and someone asks, a little anxiously, what happens if I have to miss a week? And underneath it's a real fear. That one absence will set them back. Or honestly, that it'll give them an excuse to quit.
So let me give you the honest answer, from twenty years of running these. Missing a week isn't a setback, if you handle it right. We meet ten Sunday evenings. Across a room of forty people, life happens. Most cohorts have several folks who miss a Sunday somewhere along the way.
The fix is simple. You come thirty minutes early the next week, and one of our co-leaders walks you through the block you missed, and what happened in your small group, before the room fills up. You're caught up before we even start.
Because the cohort doesn't reward perfect attendance. It rewards showing up. The free self-test in our bio is the first time you show up. That's all it takes.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera, disarming and warm.
9. How to choose a group
(Month 2, Day 30, also the Day 2 fallback)
ON-SCREEN HOOK: "Online or in-person? Self-paced or live? How to choose."
SPOKEN SCRIPT:
When you finally go looking for a divorce support group, you find three very different things, and they get lumped together as if they're the same. They're not.
There's a live cohort, real people in a room, or on a screen together, on a rhythm. There's a self-paced video course, which you do alone, on your couch. And there's a drop-in online forum, where people come and go.
They all have a place. But the thing that actually heals you, the deep connective tissue, happens with a small group of real humans, showing up together, week after week. So whatever you choose, look for this: eight to twelve people, a facilitator who's actually trained in the Fisher work, a full ten weeks, and real homework between sessions.
We're in-person, in Boulder and Denver. If you're nearby, come. And if you're not sure what fits you, book a free fifteen-minute call with me, and I'll help you find the right group, even if it turns out it's not ours. The self-test in our bio is where to start.
SHOT DIRECTION: Bob to camera. This is the safe fallback for the Day 2 slot if Bob's origin Reel (script 1) is not cleared yet, and it also runs on Day 30.
Rebuilding Seminars, Boulder & Denver. Eighteen Reel scripts (Month 1: 9, including the bonus. Month 2: 9, one gated). Nothing posted yet.