Fisher's book recommends cathartic anger work: screaming into a pillow, pounding on something, revenge fantasies. Are you still having people do those in your seminars, or have you shifted to assertive-anger-only (I-messages, setting boundaries)? Modern venting research suggests cathartic discharge can actually maintain anger rather than release it. What's your current practice, and what does your room teach you?

Fisher's Sexuality chapter recommends spermicide and nonoxynol-9 (N-9) as safer-sex measures. We now know N-9 raises HIV transmission risk and that's wrong guidance. Beyond that gap, the book's Sexuality section doesn't address genitourinary syndrome of menopause (GSM), vaginal dryness, HRT, the STI surge in adults 55+, or dating apps. What do you currently say to your groups, especially older women, about sexuality post-divorce? What's missing from the original that you've had to improvise?

Fisher's book works from Kübler-Ross's five discrete stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance) and suggests people should complete all five before repartnering. In your 15 years of cohorts, do you still teach discrete stages, or have you drifted toward a more fluid, resilience-based model? What does grief actually look like in your groups now?

The dumper/dumpee distinction (initiator vs. left behind, grieve on different clocks) is Fisher's signature contribution. Do you still use those exact words with your groups, or have you softened the terms? Is that "different clocks" insight still the book's best idea in practice, or has it shifted?

Fisher claims the divorce process takes "two years or more" and that people stay "angry about three years." Do you quote specific durations to your groups? Do those timelines match what you actually observe now, or have they compressed or extended in your experience?

Fisher assigns a "20 things you like about yourself" list and sticky-note affirmations to build self-worth. Research suggests affirmations can backfire for people with low self-esteem (making them feel worse). Are you still assigning those exercises, and if so, what do you observe about how they land with your participants?

Fisher uses Transactional Analysis language: the "inner child," the parent "tapes" you internalized, the shell/rebel/love-relationship personality patterns. Have you re-languaged this material (Internal Family Systems, schema therapy, Bowen family systems) in your teaching, or does the original TA framing still resonate with your cohorts?

Fisher uses John Lee's six love styles (erotic, ludic, storge, pragma, mania, agape). Have you kept that framework, dropped it, or replaced it with something like attachment theory or the Sternberg triangular model?

Fisher counsels keeping transitional relationships short-term and moving on. Recent research (Brumbaugh & Fraley) suggests new relationships can genuinely aid recovery while contradicting Fisher's "keep it brief" framing. What's your current guidance on post-divorce relationships? Do you find people actually heal better alone first, or do you see new relationships as legitimate healing laboratories?

The Lifeline (draw your whole-life timeline with ups and downs, plot the divorce, set future goals) is one of Fisher's strongest exercises. In your 15 years of seminars, is this the most powerful moment in the room? Any adaptations you've made, especially for long-married or older women?

Fisher frames genuine singleness as being free to choose marriage or stay single (not vowing to stay alone forever out of fear). Do you find people in your cohorts getting stuck in defensive singleness ("I'll never marry again"), and if so, how do you move them?

Fisher claims the 10-week group format outperforms solo work and individual therapy for this transition. Do you agree from your experience? And what's the actual completion rate in your seminars (the "small percentage at the top" honesty from the Freedom chapter)?

Fisher's book has sections aimed at helping minor children work through their parents' divorce. Your participants now mostly have adult children, right? Do you ever use Appendix A from Rebuilding, or do you need completely different material about adult-child loyalty binds, holidays, grandkids, and adult kids' reactions to a parent's divorce?

After 15 years, do you run the blocks in Fisher's printed order (Denial through Freedom), or have you found a different natural sequence that works better for your groups, especially for long-married older women?