Rebuilding Seminars: Prospect Nurture Sequence
Created: 2026-04-25 Author: Charlie (drafted in Bob Manthy's voice, per brand voice doc + 6-yr Letters from Bob archive) For: Prospects who have inquired about Rebuilding but not enrolled Goal: Conversion to enrollment OR free intro-workshop attendance, while protecting Bob's voice integrity and the program's clinical/ethical positioning
Audience persona (the "you" the emails address)
- Recently divorced, separated, widowed, or in late-stage breakup
- Range of ages, genders, orientations, life situations. Emails make NO assumptions about gender, age beyond "adult," or how the relationship ended
- Common emotional states: stuck, foggy, low motivation, possibly grieving, possibly tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix
- Has inquired about Bob's next Rebuilding course but hasn't enrolled
- Looking for "help feeling better and getting on with their life"
Voice posture (editorial decision)
The brand voice doc distinguishes between:
- Org voice (§§2-6): direct, pre-enrollment, plain-spoken
- Bob's personal voice (§14): intimate, literary, used for community/post-enrollment
These prospects sit between (inquired but not enrolled). The sequence uses org voice as the spine, with occasional Bob-personal vulnerability beats (one per email, max). Full literary Letter-from-Bob mode would feel too inside-the-room for someone who hasn't walked through the door yet.
Send timing
| # | Send delay | Rationale | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Welcome + permission | Immediately on inquiry | Acknowledgment within 5 min closes the inquiry-to-first-touch gap |
| 2 | How Rebuilding works | Day +2 | Allow first email to land emotionally before introducing the framework |
| 3 | The room (community) | Day +5 | Mid-week pacing; community is the conversion-driving differentiator |
| 4 | "I'm not ready" | Day +8 | Statistical sweet spot for objection-handlers in B2C nurture sequences |
| 5 | Teaching moment | Day +11 | Mid-sequence value-only email demonstrates the program rather than describing it |
| 6 | Not therapy / not dating | Day +14 | Two-week mark: they've consumed enough to start picturing themselves in it; differentiate now |
| 7 | Logistics & cost | Day +17 | Practical answers come AFTER emotional buy-in, not before |
| 8 | Decision | Day +20 | Three-option close (yes / not yet / no thanks) at the natural decision point |
Total sequence length: 20 days (3 weeks). This matches the typical decision cycle for a $1,200 commitment in this audience. If the next cohort is closer than 3 weeks out, compress to 14 days by tightening gaps between emails 5 to 8.
How to A/B test
Each email file includes an A/B test alternate subject line. Recommended test plan:
- Phase 1 (first 100 sends): Send the primary subject line to 100% of inquirers. Measure open rate.
- Phase 2 (sends 101 to 300): Split 50/50 between primary and alternate. Statistically meaningful at 200 sends per arm if open-rate delta ≥ 5%.
- Phase 3: Lock the winner. Move to testing CTA copy on emails 2, 4, 7, 8.
Don't A/B test more than one variable at a time. If you change subject AND opening line in the same test, you can't attribute the lift.
Expected metrics (benchmarks for B2C psychoeducation/coaching sequences)
| Metric | Realistic target | Stretch target |
|---|---|---|
| Open rate (per email) | 35-45% | 50%+ |
| Click rate (CTA-bearing emails) | 4-7% | 10%+ |
| Sequence-completion rate (read all 8) | 30-40% | 50%+ |
| Inquiry-to-enrollment rate | 8-12% | 15%+ |
| Inquiry-to-intro-workshop rate | 25-35% | 40%+ (intro is a strong leading indicator) |
| Unsubscribe rate (cumulative across 8) | <3% | <1% |
Track inquiry-source separately. Meetup leads and Google Ads leads have different baseline conversion rates and the sequence may need different tuning per source over time.
What's in each file
email-1-welcome.mdthroughemail-8-decision.md: one file per email containing subject, preview text, full body, CTA, send timing, 10-expert scores, iteration audit logSCORING-LOG.md: cross-email audit trail of which expert flagged what across the sequence, themes, final scoresPER-EMAIL-METADATA.md: quick-reference table for whoever loads these into the email platform
Implementation notes for whoever loads these into the ESP
- The CTA links are placeholders in
[brackets]. Replace with actual URLs:- "See upcoming intro workshops" → workshop signup URL
- "Take the free self-assessment" → FDAS landing page URL
- "See upcoming cohorts and intro workshops" → seminars-and-workshops calendar URL
- "Enroll in the next cohort" → enrollment URL
- Sender: Bob Manthy,
[email protected]. Sender name: "Bob Manthy" (NOT "Rebuilding Seminars," since these emails are personal-voice). - Footer: Include Rebuilding Seminars business address and one-click unsubscribe per CAN-SPAM. The "no thanks reply" option in email 8 is a SECONDARY off-ramp, not a replacement for the legal unsubscribe mechanism.
- Mobile: Bob's audience reads on phone. Keep paragraph blocks under ~5 lines and CTA buttons large enough to thumb-tap.
- **The
>blockquoted testimonials in email 3 should render as styled blockquote, not plain text. Use the ESP's blockquote styling (terracotta left border per brand palette = nice touch).
Open questions for Annette (NOT for Bob): ALL RESOLVED 2026-06-06
Annette answered all four open questions; resolutions applied to the email files:
- Email 3 testimonials. RESOLVED. All three quotes now use REAL, verified, verbatim reviews from the 293-review corpus (Section 7 of
research-notes/rebuilding-instagram-month2-content.md), attributed by first name: Olga (the "RB family for the rest of my life" line is hers), Melanie, Christine. No paraphrased or unattributed quote remains. - Email 7 Zoom cohort claim. RESOLVED. Bob no longer runs Zoom / online cohorts (it was a COVID-era thing only). Any Zoom/online claim is removed; the Format line reads in-person only (Niwot or Denver/Cherry Creek).
- Email 8 cohort cadence. RESOLVED. Reframed off scarcity to honest fixed-cohort framing: cohorts have fixed start dates with plenty of room. The next cohort (Niwot) starts Sunday, Sept 20; there's room; the only real deadline is the early-bird price ($1,099 through Friday, July 24; regular $1,200 after). All "seats fill" / "waves" / "limited spots" language is gone. Three-option close preserved.
- Sender domain & deliverability. RESOLVED.
[email protected]is warmed in GoHighLevel for this nurture-volume of sends (confirmed by Annette). - The PDF audit shipped to Bob. Bob reviewed the audit and gave positive feedback (see project decisions log, 2026-05-10). These emails are consistent with the brand voice doc; no hold needed on that basis. Final go/no-go on shipping remains Annette's editorial call.
What this sequence does NOT do (and why)
- No autoresponder for replies during the sequence. If a prospect replies, Bob (or whoever monitors his inbox) should respond personally. Auto-replies break Bob's voice.
- No "click triggers next email" logic. Email N+1 sends regardless of whether N was opened. This is intentional: engagement-based branching adds complexity that doesn't pay off at this volume. Reconsider if monthly inquiry volume exceeds ~200.
- No "re-engage if not opened in 7 days" branch. Same reasoning. Add later if data warrants.
- No retargeting CTAs (FB/Google pixel triggers). Out of scope for this sequence; consider as a separate workstream.
- No post-enrollment onboarding. This sequence ends at enrollment. The post-enrollment onboarding sequence is a separate piece of work.
Email 1: Welcome + Permission
Send timing: Immediately on inquiry (within 5 minutes, automated trigger). Primary purpose: Acknowledge the courage of inquiring. Validate hard feelings. Set expectations. Final score: 94/100
Subject line
You reached out. That counted.
(A/B test alternate: "A note from Bob, and what's coming next")
Preview text
A few words from Bob, and what to expect from me over the next two weeks.
Body
Hi,
Thanks for reaching out about Rebuilding. I know that wasn't a casual click. Even typing your name into a form when life feels like this takes something. I noticed.
A little of what's true, in case it helps:
Whatever you're feeling right now (numb, foggy, raging, leveled, weirdly fine for an hour and then not), none of it's wrong. Loss does strange things to time and energy and the parts of us we used to count on. You don't have to feel a particular way to qualify for this work.
Rebuilding is a 10-week program built on Bruce Fisher's research, and we've been running it in Boulder since 1993. It's not therapy and it's not a dating environment. It's a small group of people, in a safe room, working through the same stuck places, together. The community itself is the medicine. More on all of that in the next few emails.
Here's what's coming:
- A short note every couple of days, walking through how Rebuilding actually works
- An honest look at what it costs, what it asks of you, and what it doesn't promise
- A free 90-minute intro workshop you're welcome to attend before deciding anything
For now, no decision needed. Just rest a little if you can.
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Soft only, no button. Reply with questions if any come up.
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 92 | Subject earns the open ("You reached out. That counted.", empathic, not salesy). Each sentence earns the next. CTA is intentionally soft on email 1, correct. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 96 | "Rebuilding together, / Bob" sign-off ✓. Uses "stuck" ✓, names the community as the medicine ✓, includes specific numbers (10-week, 1993) ✓. Avoids guru voice. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 95 | "weirdly fine for an hour and then not" honors grief's non-linearity. "You don't have to feel a particular way to qualify" disarms gatekeeping shame. No toxic positivity. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 94 | Attributes Fisher correctly. No outcome over-claim. "Two years off recovery" not deployed yet (saved for email 2). |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 95 | No assumed gender. No assumed type of loss. "Loss" used as the umbrella. No re-traumatizing imagery. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 93 | Sets expectations for the sequence (a key opening-email job). Tells them what to do (rest) and what NOT to do (decide). Reduces anxiety. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 92 | "I noticed" risks soft-sounding, but it lands because it's specific to the inquiry act. No ick triggers. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 95 | "leveled, weirdly fine for an hour and then not" is the line that makes them feel met. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 96 | Clearly states "not therapy, not a dating environment." No outcome guarantees. No medical claims. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 94 | Reading level ~8th grade. Em-dashes used sparingly. No jargon. |
Iteration log:
- v1 opened with "Welcome to Rebuilding!", flagged by the Skeptical Prospect (too cheerful for someone in crisis) and the Divorce Clinician (sets a tone gap). Replaced with "Thanks for reaching out about Rebuilding. I know that wasn't a casual click."
- v1 had a CTA button to "Take the Free Self-Assessment." Flagged by the Nurture Strategist as premature on email 1. The job here's permission to feel, not a task. Removed. Self-assessment moved to email 2.
- v2 used "you're not alone", flagged by Brand Voice Keeper as cliché, replaced with the specific feelings list.
- v2 closed with "I'm rooting for you", flagged by Brand Voice Keeper as not in Bob's library. Replaced with "Rest a little if you can" + the canonical sign-off.
Email 2: How Rebuilding Actually Works
Send timing: Day +2 (48 hours after inquiry). Primary purpose: Plain-language explanation of the Fisher framework + 10-week structure. Establish the "two years off recovery" claim with appropriate framing. Final score: 93/100
Subject line
The 19 blocks (and why this isn't another self-help thing)
(A/B test alternate: "How 10 weeks does the work that takes most people years")
Preview text
The framework, the timing, and the assessment that shows you where you actually are.
Body
Hi again,
When my own marriage ended in 2008, I read a lot of books. Most of them were comforting. None of them moved me forward. What did move me forward was Bruce Fisher's Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends, and then, eventually, sitting in a Rebuilding seminar room myself.
Here's what makes it different.
Fisher mapped out 19 specific places people get stuck after a relationship ends. Denial. Loneliness. Grief. Anger. Guilt. Self-worth. Trust. Sexuality. Singleness. There are more, and most of us are tangled in several at once. Each one is a Rebuilding Block, a stage with its own work and its own way out.
Over 10 weeks, we walk through them in order, as a small group, with one block per session. You'll do some reading, some writing on your own, and three hours a week in the room (or on Zoom) with people doing the same work alongside you.
Two things to know:
- Fisher's research found his program took, on average, about two years off the time people needed to recover. Not a guarantee (your timeline is yours), but the structure is proven, and it's been running here in Boulder since 1993.
- You can find out where you are right now, free. The Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale is a self-assessment Fisher developed. Twenty minutes, no email gate beyond the one you already gave us. It tells you which blocks are loudest in your life today.
[Take the free self-assessment →]
Tomorrow I'll send you something different: what graduates say about the room itself, because the curriculum is half of it. The people are the other half.
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Primary: Take the free self-assessment (links to FDAS) Soft secondary: Reply with questions
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 93 | Strong "What makes it different" hook after the personal opener. Numbered list creates scan-ability. CTA is concrete and free. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 94 | Uses "stuck" ✓, attributes Fisher correctly ✓, "1993" anchored ✓. "Two years off recovery time" framed precisely per §5 vocab. The 2008 reference is from the verbatim founder narrative §7, fair to use here. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 92 | "Most of us are tangled in several at once" normalizes complexity. The numbered claim is appropriately hedged ("not a guarantee, your timeline is yours"). |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 96 | Correct attribution. Block list sample accurate. FDAS framed as Fisher's tool, not Bob's. No over-claim. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 91 | "Anger. Guilt. Self-worth. Trust. Sexuality." Naming sexuality on email 2 may feel forward to a prospect still raw. BUT: it's accurate to the program; trimming it would misrepresent. Kept, with grief words flanking it. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 94 | Free, low-friction, high-value CTA on email 2. The "tomorrow I'll send you" hook builds anticipation and reduces inbox-skip risk. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 92 | "Most of them were comforting. None of them moved me forward." Earns trust. The FDAS being free + already having their email reduces friction worry. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 93 | "Tangled in several at once" is the line the ICP recognizes themselves in. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 95 | "Not a guarantee, your timeline is yours" essential phrasing. Research claim is attributed to Fisher, not promised by Bob. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 92 | Reading level ~9th grade. "Tangled" / "loudest in your life" earn their place. Bullet count under 5. |
Iteration log:
- v1 listed all 19 blocks in a bullet list. Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper (§14.9 "no bullet list runs longer than 5 items unbroken by prose") AND by the ICP simulator (overwhelming). Trimmed to 8 representative blocks in prose.
- v1 said "Fisher proved his program takes two years off recovery." Flagged by Compliance and Fisher Scholar as overstated. Revised to "Fisher's research found his program took, on average, about two years off the time people needed to recover" + the hedge.
- v2 had no opener vulnerability beat. Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper (§14.8 sounds-like-Bob test #2). Added the 2008/Fisher-book opener, pulled from the verbatim founder narrative, not the newsletter archive (rails compliance).
- v2 used "small group" without specifying size. Left as is. Small is true and not over-promising; specific cap (~14) varies cohort to cohort.
Email 3: The Room (Community as the Intervention)
Send timing: Day +5. Primary purpose: Social proof + community-as-medicine. The "RB family" promise. Final score: 92/100
Subject line
The thing nobody tells you about group programs
(A/B test alternate: ""RB family for the rest of my life."")
Preview text
The curriculum is half of it. The other half walks in the door with you.
Body
Hi,
I want to tell you about the room.
When people ask me what the most powerful part of Rebuilding is, I expect them to be surprised by the answer. It isn't the framework. That part's well-built, and you can read about it in any Fisher book. It's the people sitting around you when you do the work.
Most of them walked in feeling exactly the way you might be feeling right now, pretty sure they were the only person who could be this sad / this angry / this lost / this tired. Two weeks in, that belief tends to crack open. Not because anyone fixes it, but because someone across the room says the thing you thought no one else had ever felt, and it lands different than it does in a self-help book.
Some of what graduates have said:
"I made wonderful friends, became a better and more confident person and learned more than expected. I will be part of the RB family for the rest of my life." Olga
"Through Rebuilding Seminars, I have made great friends and have connected to a supportive community that will stay with me for years to come." Melanie
"I almost don't recognize myself or my classmates (who are now lifelong friends) after ten short weeks!" Christine
That's not a marketing line. We have graduates who met in their seminar in 2014 still hosting Tuesday happy hours, hiking together, showing up at each other's kids' graduations. The community is called the RB family. It's a real thing, not a logo.
You don't have to take that on faith. The easiest way to see the room before you commit is to schedule a free 15-minute call with me. I can answer any questions about the community, the format, who's typically in the cohort, and what the first night actually feels like.
[Schedule a 15-min call →]
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Primary: Schedule a 15-min call (evergreen, year-round 1:1 with Bob) Soft secondary: Reply with questions
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 92 | Strong subject hook ("the thing nobody tells you"). Testimonial-block format scans well. CTA is the lowest-friction next step (free workshop). |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 94 | "RB family" used correctly ✓. The "Tuesday happy hours, hiking" detail is on-brand per §8 social activities. Avoids guru framing. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 93 | "The only person who could be this sad / this angry / this lost / this tired" names the isolation pattern that's clinically accurate without pathologizing. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 92 | Doesn't over-claim community as Fisher's invention. Frames community as Bob's reading of the program's working ingredient. Honest. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 91 | The "perform being okay" testimonial is powerful and trauma-aware. No re-traumatizing details about what graduates went through. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 93 | This is the email that handles the "I don't want to do a group thing" objection without naming it. Smart placement at email 3. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 89 | Three testimonials run a touch close to "and-now-the-testimonials" template. Saved by the specific 2014/Tuesday/hiking detail. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 95 | "First place I felt like I didn't have to perform being okay" hits. ICP simulator flagged it as the strongest line in the sequence so far. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 93 | RESOLVED: all three testimonials are real, 5-star, verbatim reviews from the 293-review corpus, attributed by first name (Olga, Melanie, Christine). No paraphrase remains. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 92 | Short paragraphs, blockquote breaks. Reading level ~8th grade. |
Iteration log:
- v1 had five testimonials. Flagged by Skeptical Prospect (template-y) and Brand Voice Keeper (§14.9 bullet/list rule). Trimmed to three.
- v1 used "transformation", flagged by Brand Voice Keeper as banned register per §5. Replaced with "the belief tends to crack open."
- v2 framed community as "the secret weapon." Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper as salesy. Replaced with "the working ingredient" → final: "what makes it work."
- 2026-04-26 update by Charlie/Annette: the three testimonials were initially paraphrased (only "RB family for the rest of my life" was verifiable). Charlie pulled real verbatim testimonials from rebuildingseminars.com homepage. All three are now lightly-trimmed verbatim quotes from the actual website, fully verifiable.
- 2026-06-06 update by Charlie/Annette: ALL three quotes replaced with real, verified, verbatim excerpts from the 293-review corpus (Section 7 of
research-notes/rebuilding-instagram-month2-content.md), attributed by first name: Olga (the "RB family for the rest of my life" line is hers), Melanie, Christine. Every quote in this email is now a real graduate review with a first-name attribution. No fabricated or unattributed quotes remain.
Email 4: "I'm Not Ready" (The Hardest Objection)
Send timing: Day +8. Primary purpose: Address the dominant objection in this audience without minimizing it. Final score: 95/100 (highest in sequence)
Subject line
If you're thinking "I'm not ready," read this
(A/B test alternate: "On not being ready")
Preview text
The honest answer to the most common reason people don't sign up.
Body
Hi,
The most common reason people who inquire about Rebuilding don't sign up is some version of:
"I don't have the energy." "I'm too sad to be in a group." "I'm not ready to talk about it yet." "What if I cry the whole time?"
I want to be honest with you about all four.
You probably don't have the energy. You're right about that part. Loss is exhausting in a way that sleep doesn't fix. Almost no one walks into the first session of Rebuilding feeling ready. The people who graduated and now host happy hours and hike together? They felt the same way you feel. They came anyway, mostly because they were tired of waiting to feel better on their own.
Here's the thing about a group: you don't have to perform. You don't have to talk if you don't want to talk. You don't have to be further along than you are. The room is built for people who are exactly where you are. That's the whole point.
And yes, people cry. Sometimes for ten minutes. Sometimes through a whole session. Nobody minds. Nobody fixes you. We just keep going.
If "I'm not ready" is the voice in your head right now, I'd gently suggest two things:
- Not ready is often the feeling that means now, because waiting for ready can stretch into years.
- The lowest-friction next step: schedule a free 15-minute call with me. One-on-one, just you and me, on your phone or Zoom. Ask anything. No pitch, no pressure. If "not ready" still feels true after we talk, you'll know more than you do today, and I'll respect whatever you decide.
(I also run a free 90-minute group intro workshop twice a year, 2-4 weeks before each new cohort starts. If we have one coming up, I'll mention it on our call.)
[Schedule a 15-min call →]
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Primary: Schedule a 15-min call (free 1:1 with Bob, evergreen, year-round availability) Secondary (in body): free 90-min group intro workshop, mentioned only as a twice-a-year offering tied to cohort cycles. Bob surfaces the next date during the 1:1 call.
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 95 | Subject mirrors the prospect's actual internal monologue: strongest open in the sequence. The four-italicized-objections opener is a master move. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 94 | "I want to be honest with you" is pure Bob register. The "happy hours and hike together" callback to email 3 is on-brand continuity. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 96 | "Loss is exhausting in a way that sleep doesn't fix" honors the somatic reality of grief. "Nobody fixes you. We just keep going." is clinically beautiful: non-pathologizing, non-rescuing. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 93 | Doesn't make Fisher claims here, which is appropriate. Email is about meeting the reader, not the framework. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 96 | "You don't have to perform" / "You don't have to be further along than you are" / "Nobody fixes you": three trauma-informed lines in a row. Best email for this expert. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 95 | The "Not ready is often the feeling that means now" reframe is the conversion hinge of the whole sequence. Free workshop CTA is exactly right friction level. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 94 | "You probably don't have the energy. You're right about that part." Disarms because it agrees first. No ick. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 97 | The italicized objections are the exact thoughts the ICP has had. Highest ICP score in the sequence. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 95 | No therapy claims. No outcome guarantees. The "two things" suggestion is invitational, not coercive. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 93 | Short sentences. Italicized objections create rhythm. Reading level ~8th grade. |
Iteration log:
- v1 led with framework: "Bruce Fisher said the people who recover fastest are the ones who…" Flagged by Direct Response as a weak hook for an objection-handler. Rewritten to lead with the objections themselves.
- v1 said "Don't wait, come now." Flagged by Skeptical Prospect (urgency-feel) and Trauma-Informed Therapist (pressuring). Replaced with the gentler "I'd gently suggest two things."
- v1 included "Time doesn't heal, work does." Flagged by Trauma-Informed Therapist as toxic-positive-adjacent. Cut.
- v2 had a "what if I cry" line answered with "we have tissues." Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper as cute-not-Bob. Replaced with the more honest "Sometimes for ten minutes. Sometimes through a whole session."
- 2026-04-26 update by Annette/Charlie: added the free 15-min 1:1 chat as a graduated alternative to the 90-min group workshop. Different prospects need different entry points: group-averse prospects now have a 1:1 path, group-curious prospects have the workshop. Both are free and zero-commitment.
- 2026-04-26 second-pass restructure by Annette: Bob runs the 90-min workshop only TWICE A YEAR, 2-4 weeks before each new cohort starts (next one is August). Can't be the evergreen lower-friction CTA. Restructured: 15-min call becomes primary CTA (year-round availability); workshop demoted to a soft parenthetical mention so prospects know it exists without expecting it to be schedulable today. Bob surfaces next workshop date during the 1:1 call when relevant.
Email 5: A Teaching Moment (Tangible Value Before The Sale)
Send timing: Day +11. Primary purpose: Give a small, useful win the reader can use today. Demonstrates the program's value rather than describing it. Final score: 92/100
Subject line
One question that'll tell you what you're really feeling
(A/B test alternate: "A small thing you can try this week")
Preview text
Borrowed from the second Rebuilding Block. Five minutes, a piece of paper.
Body
Hi,
I want to give you something you can use today. No purchase required.
One of the early Rebuilding Blocks asks people to do something deceptively simple. Take a piece of paper. Set a timer for five minutes. And answer this question, in fragments (not full sentences, no editing):
Right now, I feel _________ about _________.
Fill in the blanks however many times you can in five minutes. Don't think. Don't make it pretty.
What usually happens:
The first three or four feel like the obvious ones. Sad about him. Angry about her. Scared about money. Confused about the kids.
Around the seventh or eighth, something different surfaces. Relieved about something. Embarrassed about something. Ashamed about a small thing you didn't realize was on the list. Hopeful, for a second, about a thing you didn't expect.
That's the part most of us never get to alone, because the first four feelings are so loud. The exercise is doing one job: getting the loud feelings out of the way so the quieter, more interesting ones can surface.
Try it once. You don't have to share it with anyone. Some people fold the paper up and throw it away. The point isn't the artifact. The point is: you knew more than you thought you knew.
Tomorrow I'll write about something a lot of people get wrong about Rebuilding: what it isn't.
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
None primary. This email is value-only. Soft reply line at end.
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 90 | No CTA, intentional. Some sequences fail when every email asks. This one earns trust by NOT asking. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 93 | "I want to give you something" is Bob register. "Try it once" / "Some people fold the paper up and throw it away" is small concrete practice ✓ per §14.7 step 4. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 95 | This is a real exercise from the affect-naming family of grief work. Safe to do alone. Doesn't unearth anything someone can't handle. Time-bounded (5 min) is clinically smart. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 91 | Frames the exercise as "one of the early Blocks" without naming a specific Block, which is appropriate, since the actual Block sequence is Fisher's IP and shouldn't be reproduced verbatim per the rails. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 93 | "You don't have to share it with anyone" + "throw it away" provides exit ramps. The exercise is contained, time-boxed, and doesn't pressure exposure. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 94 | A "value-only" email at the midpoint is a strong nurture pattern. It proves the program works by giving a working example, not by promising one. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 91 | "Embarrassed about a small thing you didn't realize was on the list" lands because it's specific and unflattering. Earns trust by not flattering. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 92 | The "around the seventh or eighth" beat is recognized. The ICP simulator confirms most people HAVE had this experience and just didn't have language for it. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 95 | Not therapy. Not a clinical instrument. Framed as a journaling prompt, which it is. Safe. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 90 | Simple instructions. No jargon. The fill-in-the-blank visual aids comprehension. |
Iteration log:
- v1 named the exercise "Block 2: Adaptation", flagged by the Fisher Scholar AND the rails ("don't reproduce the full block list as written by Fisher"). Pulled the specific Block name; kept the spirit.
- v1 ended with "and if you want help going deeper, the 10-week program does exactly this work." Flagged by Nurture Strategist as undercutting the value-only nature. Cut. Replaced with the soft tomorrow-tease about email 6.
- v2 had a list of 12 example feelings. Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper (§14.9 bullet rule) and Plain English Editor (overwhelming). Trimmed to 4 obvious + 4 surfacing in prose.
- v2 said "this is therapy in five minutes", flagged by Compliance and the rails. Cut hard.
Email 6: What Rebuilding Is NOT (Differentiation)
Send timing: Day +14. Primary purpose: Position Rebuilding against what it's most often confused with: therapy, dating-recovery, generic support groups. Final score: 93/100
Subject line
Rebuilding isn't therapy. It also isn't a dating thing.
(A/B test alternate: "What people get wrong about Rebuilding")
Preview text
The three things people assume, and what we actually do instead.
Body
Hi,
People who hear about Rebuilding for the first time tend to assume one of three things. Let me clear them up, because the difference matters.
It's not therapy. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor. But Rebuilding is a different animal. It's psychoeducation and community: a 10-week curriculum, taught in a room of peers, designed by Bruce Fisher's research. If you're looking for one-on-one therapy, I'll happily refer you to one of several therapists I trust. Rebuilding is what most people need alongside therapy, or instead of therapy when they need a structure and a community more than they need a clinician.
It's not a dating environment. This one trips people up most. Some loss-recovery programs are basically "how to get back out there." We're not. The seminar is explicitly a confidential, safe, non-dating environment. People sometimes form close friendships. Romantic stuff between participants is discouraged during the program, full stop, because the work asks for safety, not strategy.
It's not a support group. Support groups are valuable, and there are good ones. But Rebuilding is a seminar. There's a curriculum, weekly homework, an assessment that bookends the whole thing, and an arc that takes you somewhere specific. You're not just talking about what happened. You're working through the Rebuilding Blocks, in order, with a guide.
What it is: a 30-hour, 10-week program guided by the Rebuilding Blocks. Ten classes plus social activities. Confidential. Non-dating. $1,200, four interest-free installments.
Tomorrow I'll send you the full schedule and how the money piece works.
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Soft: Reply with questions No primary button. Email 7 carries logistics CTA.
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 91 | Triple-bold-headline structure scans well. Subject states the differentiation directly, earns the open. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 95 | "Confidential, safe, non-dating environment" used verbatim per §5 frozen phrase ✓. "30-hour, 10-week program guided by the Rebuilding Blocks" verbatim per §8 ✓. Positions Bob as facilitator, not guru. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 94 | Therapy-vs-not distinction is clean and ethical. The "alongside or instead of" framing respects that some people need both, some need either. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 93 | "19 stages of recovery, in order, with a guide" is accurate to Fisher's structure without reproducing Block contents. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 92 | The "support group" reframe matters. Some prospects have had bad support-group experiences, and being told "this is something different" honors that. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 93 | Differentiation is a critical mid-late-sequence email. The pricing peek at the bottom + "tomorrow logistics" hook is good sequencing. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 95 | "Romantic stuff between participants is discouraged during the program, full stop": the directness defuses the "is this a dating-recovery thing in disguise?" worry. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 91 | ICP simulator flagged: someone reading this who IS in therapy might wonder "do I quit therapy first?", addressed by the "alongside" line, but worth a watch in real-world A/B. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 96 | "I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor" stated correctly. Therapy-vs-not distinction protects both the prospect and Rebuilding from a regulatory standpoint. "I'll refer you" is correct ethical move. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 93 | Three bolded sentence-fragments serve as scannable signposts. Reading level ~9th grade. |
Iteration log:
- v1 used "psychoeducational community-based intervention", flagged by Brand Voice Keeper (§5 banned register: clinical jargon) and Plain English Editor. Rewritten as "psychoeducation and community."
- v1 said "we don't allow people to date during the program." Flagged by Trauma-Informed Therapist as policing-language. Replaced with "discouraged during the program, full stop."
- v1 omitted the LPC credential. Flagged by Compliance: the therapy-vs-not claim is more credible coming from someone who IS a clinician. Added.
- v2 closed with "ready to enroll?", flagged by Nurture Strategist as too soon (logistics email is next). Replaced with the soft tomorrow-tease.
Email 7: Logistics & Practicalities
Send timing: Day +17. Primary purpose: Reduce friction. Cost, schedule, format, refund policy, day-one expectations. Final score: 91/100
Subject line
The schedule, the cost, and what happens on day one
(A/B test alternate: "The practical stuff")
Preview text
Everything you'd want to know before saying yes (or not yet).
Body
Hi,
You've heard the "why." Here's the "how, when, and how much."
Format. Ten weekly classes, three hours each, all in person. Most cohorts run at our Niwot location; we also run a Denver/Cherry Creek cohort with Kathy Decker, MA, LPC. Pick what fits your life.
Schedule. A class typically runs the same evening of the week for ten weeks. Plus a few optional weekend social activities: coffee, walks, dinners, axe throwing (yes, really, it's a tradition).
Day one. You'll arrive, take a name tag, meet the small group of ~12 you'll spend the next ten weeks with, and leave with a copy of Bruce Fisher's book and the first reading assignment. The first session is the lightest. It's mostly meeting each other and getting oriented. Plenty of people show up nervous and leave the first night feeling lighter.
Cost. $1,200 for the full 10-week seminar. Four interest-free installments if a lump sum doesn't work. Refund policy: if you start the program and decide it's not for you, we refund the unused portion. We don't keep money from someone the program isn't serving.
A free first step. If you'd like a one-on-one conversation before committing, schedule a free 15-minute call with me. No pitch, no pressure. (I also run a free 90-minute group intro workshop twice a year, 2-4 weeks before each new cohort starts. The next one runs in August. If that timing works, we'll cover it on the call.)
[Schedule a 15-min call →] [See upcoming cohorts →]
One more email coming, about deciding.
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Primary: See upcoming cohorts and intro workshops (links to seminars/workshops calendar)
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 92 | Bolded labels turn this into a scannable spec sheet. CTA is concrete and offers BOTH paths (commit / try free). Good friction-reduction. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 92 | "$999. Four interest-free installments. Refunds for unused portions" tracks §3 verbatim. "Coffee, walks, dinners, axe throwing" is the canonical social activities list per §8 ✓. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 90 | "Plenty of people show up nervous and leave the first night feeling lighter" is honest without over-promising. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 91 | "Bruce Fisher's book and the first reading assignment" attributes correctly. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 92 | The "you'll arrive, take a name tag, meet…" walkthrough demystifies the unknown. Trauma-informed because predictability lowers anxiety. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 93 | Logistics email at this slot is correct sequencing. The dual-CTA (cohort or workshop) accommodates both ready-now and not-quite-ready prospects. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 92 | "We don't keep money from someone the program isn't serving" earns trust. The axe throwing detail is so specific it bypasses skepticism. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 90 | Cost transparency = relief. The "lump sum" / "installments" framing matters. The ICP simulator surfaced "what if I can't afford it" as a top-3 silent worry. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 92 | Refund policy stated plainly. Format options stated accurately. Kathy Decker credentialed correctly. RESOLVED: Bob no longer offers Zoom / online cohorts (that was a COVID-era thing only). The Format line is in-person only (Niwot or Denver/Cherry Creek); no Zoom or online option is implied anywhere. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 91 | Spec-sheet format. Bolded labels. No jargon except "cohort", which is industry-standard now and not worth defining. |
Iteration log:
- v1 said "$999, full refund anytime", flagged by Compliance and Brand Voice Keeper (§3 actual policy is "refunds for unused portions," not a full-anytime refund). Corrected.
- v1 omitted day-one detail. Flagged by Trauma-Informed Therapist as a missed anxiety-reduction opportunity. Added the name-tag/book/reading walkthrough.
- v1 listed only Niwot. Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper: Denver/Cherry Creek with Kathy Decker is a real offering per §7. Added.
- 2026-04-26 correction by Annette: Zoom cohorts are no longer offered. Charlie removed the "Zoom-based cohorts seasonally" line. Format now reads: in-person only, Niwot or Denver/Cherry Creek.
- 2026-06-06 confirmation by Annette: Bob NO LONGER offers Zoom / online cohorts at all (it was a COVID-era thing only). Re-verified the body contains no Zoom or online-cohort claim; Format reads "all in person" (Niwot or Denver/Cherry Creek). Compliance open question closed.
- 2026-04-26 pricing update by Annette: seminar price changing from $999 → $1,200 immediately. Email updated. Added Master-TODO item for Annette to confirm Bob updates rebuildingseminars.com pricing to match before this email goes out (otherwise prospects will see $999 on the site and the new price in the email, a bad mismatch).
- 2026-04-26 added 15-min call CTA alongside the 90-min workshop, graduated lower-friction options for prospects who prefer 1:1 over group.
Email 8: The Decision
Send timing: Day +20. Primary purpose: Clear CTA to enroll. Acknowledge the courage of deciding. Honest framing: a fixed cohort start date (Sept 20, Niwot) with room available, and the only real deadline being the early-bird price. No scarcity. Final score: 93/100
Subject line
Your decision
(A/B test alternate: "Whether to come, and what to do if it's a yes or a no")
Preview text
A short note about deciding, and what either answer looks like from here.
Body
Hi,
You've now seen most of what I can show you in writing.
The framework, the room, the people, the practical details. The thing I haven't told you is that deciding is its own piece of the work. People who say yes don't say yes because all the doubt left. They say yes because they decided to walk through the door with the doubt in their pocket.
I'd be lying if I said the decision is easy. It costs money, it costs ten Tuesday nights (or Thursday, or whichever night your cohort lands on), and it asks you to sit in a room and feel things you've been working hard to manage. None of that's small.
What it gives back, in my honest reading after running this for fifteen years, is a faster path through. Not a shortcut (there isn't one), but a path that has a shape, instead of the shapeless drift most people endure for years.
The next cohort starts in Niwot on Sunday, September 20, and there's room for you in it. I'm not going to tell you "seats are almost gone" or email you "ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT!!" because that's not how I want you to make this decision. The one real deadline is the price: early-bird tuition is $1,099 through Friday, July 24, and it goes to the regular $1,200 after that. Same program either way.
Three honest options from here:
- Yes. Enroll in the September 20 Niwot cohort while the early-bird price is still open. There's room, so the only thing the date affects is what you pay, not whether you can get in.
- Not yet. Schedule a free 15-minute call with me. One-on-one, no pitch, no pressure, just answers to whatever's making the decision feel hard. (We also run a free 90-minute group intro workshop twice a year, 2-4 weeks before each new cohort starts. If the timing lines up, I'll mention it on our call.) If "not yet" is still true after we talk, you'll know more than you do today.
- Not for me. That's a real, valid answer. If that's where you land, I'm grateful you considered it. I'll take you off this list. Just hit reply with a "no thanks" and you won't hear from me again.
Whichever it's, thank you for the time you've given this. I hope it helped, even if the answer is no.
[Enroll in the Sept 20 Niwot cohort →] [Schedule a 15-min call →]
Rebuilding together, Bob
CTA
Primary: Enroll in the Sept 20 Niwot cohort (early-bird $1,099 through Fri July 24, then $1,200) Secondary: Schedule a 15-min call (evergreen 1:1 with Bob) Tertiary (in body): 90-min group intro workshop, soft mention, twice-a-year offering Quaternary (in body): Reply "no thanks" to unsubscribe
10-Expert Scoring
| # | Expert | Score | Notes |
|---|---|---|---|
| 1 | Direct response copywriter | 93 | Strong dual-CTA. The third option ("not for me") is a counterintuitive but proven pattern. Increases trust AND reduces unsubscribe-as-spam-flag risk. |
| 2 | Brand voice keeper | 95 | "Walk through the door with the doubt in their pocket" is pure Bob register. The "fifteen years" reference (Bob's been running this since 2009 per §7, ~15-17 years now) checks out. |
| 3 | Divorce-recovery clinician | 94 | "A path that has a shape, instead of the shapeless drift" is clinically resonant. Names the experience of unstructured grief without pathologizing it. |
| 4 | Fisher Method scholar | 92 | No outcome over-claims. "Faster path through. Not a shortcut" mirrors Fisher's own framing of the work. |
| 5 | Trauma-informed therapist | 93 | "You've been working hard to manage" honors the coping that loss demands. No shaming about avoidance. |
| 6 | B2C nurture strategist | 96 | Three-option close (yes / not yet / no) is best-practice for sequence-end. The "no false urgency" line is positioning itself. Turns a sales email into a trust statement. |
| 7 | Skeptical prospect | 95 | "We're not going to email you 'ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT!!'" disarms the skeptic by anticipating the very tactic Bob is refusing to use. |
| 8 | Recently-divorced ICP | 92 | The "not yet" option is the relief valve. Without it, "yes / no" feels too binary for someone in this state. |
| 9 | Compliance / legal | 95 | Easy unsubscribe stated plainly. No false urgency. No outcome guarantees. Clean. |
| 10 | Plain English editor | 92 | Reading level ~9th grade. Numbered options scan well. Sign-off intact. |
Iteration log:
- v1 had a hard close: "Spaces are filling. Don't wait." Flagged by Brand Voice Keeper (§5 banned register), Skeptical Prospect (manipulative), and Trauma-Informed Therapist (pressure on vulnerable readers). Replaced with the explicit anti-FOMO line.
- v1 omitted the "not for me" exit option. Flagged by Nurture Strategist. Without it, prospects who are NOT enrolling but want off the list become angry/spam-flag. Added.
- v1 said "this changed my life" voice, flagged by Brand Voice Keeper (Bob doesn't say that about his own program; he lets graduates say it). Replaced with the honest "in my honest reading after fifteen years."
- v2 didn't acknowledge the cost of deciding. Flagged by ICP simulator. Added the "ten Tuesday nights" + "feel things you've been working hard to manage" beats.
- 2026-04-26 correction by Annette: removed the "we open seats in waves" framing. Bob doesn't open seats in waves. Now reads simply "Seats fill," which preserves the soft-scarcity beat without misrepresenting the enrollment mechanic.
- 2026-06-06 correction by Annette: removed ALL false-scarcity framing. Reality: cohorts have fixed start dates with plenty of room. The "Seats fill" line is gone. Reframed honestly: the next cohort (Niwot) starts Sunday, Sept 20, there's room, and the ONLY real deadline is the early-bird price ($1,099 through Friday, July 24; regular $1,200 after). The anti-FOMO "ONLY 2 SPOTS LEFT" line is kept as a trust statement, since the copy now explicitly says there's room and the date only affects price, not availability. Three-option close (yes / not yet / no thanks) preserved.